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Carolyn Cole, LCPC, LMFT, NCC

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    Fights About Nothing, or So It Seems…

    Do you ever feel like you’re in a Seinfeld episode in your relationship?  It seems like you’re fighting about nothing?   According to relationship expert, Dr. John Gottman,… Read more “Fights About Nothing, or So It Seems…”

    August 7, 2018 by Carolyn Cole, LCPC, LMFT, NCC

    Willpower in Achieving Your Dreams

    The new year has arrived!  People generally either tend to look at this as a fresh start or just another day.  However you view it, what goals… Read more “Willpower in Achieving Your Dreams”

    January 1, 2018 by Carolyn Cole, LCPC, LMFT, NCC

    3 Tips for Women to Cope with the “I Need Space” Conversation

    You’re dating the man of your dreams.  Things are going wonderfully.  And then suddenly, it seems as though he’s backing off and becoming more distant.  You are… Read more “3 Tips for Women to Cope with the “I Need Space” Conversation”

    May 7, 2017September 5, 2021 by Carolyn Cole, LCPC, LMFT, NCC

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    One of the most surprising things about healing is that it doesn’t always feel good. Many of us spend years trying to become who we think we’re “supposed” to be. Sometimes the reactions we judge most harshly in ourselves make sense when viewed through the lens of the nervous system. Sometimes it’s not just what happened that shapes our experience—it’s the meaning we attach to what happened. Sometimes the relationship isn’t the only thing influencing the relationship. Understanding your attachment style - and your partner’s - can be a literal game changer in relationships. Perspective shifts don’t always happen because the situation changes. Sometimes they happen because you do. ❤️ Listening is often talked about as a communication skill, but it is also a relational experience. Many people are used to conversations where someone quickly gives advice, changes the subject, interrupts, reassures, problem solves, or prepares a response. And while those responses are often well intentioned, sometimes what a person needs first is to feel heard, emotionally understood, and genuinely present with. Change and accomplishment doesn’t start with motivation. It starts with one small, repeated choice that begins to shift what you believe is possible.

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